Mekai never was totally on board to go with us. I guess now I understand it more, but at first I was like, "are you kidding me? This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to live abroad!" But she just wasn't totally feeling it. At any rate, we were making plans for her to join us. Because she is not me and Ville's daughter together, just mine, I had to provide proof of the divorce so they could put her down as Vile's stepdaughter.Fast forward to August 10 or 11, we get the email from HR that they were not going to grant her a residence visa because she was no longer a minor, and she was not me and Ville's child together. Talk about a sucker punch to my face!!!! I was sick to my stomach. What the heck was she going to do? We were informed that she is eligible to visit as much and as often as she wanted....just couldn't live with us. But like I said the other day, God has had His hand all in and through this whole thing.
Not knowing until that Friday, she had gone out and looked at off campus housing at UNCC on Thursday....because she DIDN'T WANT TO GO! She would still be able to keep her job. One that she truly enjoys. She has 3 roommates. Her bedroom has it's own bathroom. She will enroll at CPCC soon to get her credits and then transfer to UNCC. See, it all worked out in the end. This is her opportunity to show us what she's made of. She wanted this independence, so here it is. Her support system is absolutely fabulous. Made possible by family in Charlotte, Flint, Atlanta, Texas, Minnesota and Alabama. Will she make mistakes? Most assuredly she will. But can she bounce back form them? Absolutely!! As long as she keeps God as her focus, and casts all her cares on Him, I know she will be just fine. I miss her everyday. But we talk a number of times each day. She even has a special young man that I TOTALLY appove of that has been helping with this transition.
So even though things didn't workout the way I thought they would, the worked out the way they were destined to. Can't wait til Christmas!!!!Know that I love ya! Mean it!
On Children
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Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Love you baby! See you soon!
ReplyDeleteI'm reminded that there are two things you must give your children, The first is Roots, the second is Wings.
ReplyDeleteLove to all of you. Your baby girl will shine based upon all of the examples you have shown her about surviving.
ReplyDeleteGod is and always has been in control. He as given you the knowledge to pass on to Mekai to be able to go forward and be the best that she can be!!! Although you are miles apart your guidance is still very much a part of her growth!!
ReplyDeleteHi Cousins...so excited for you all on this journey!! Your baby girl will be just fine...after all..she's got the best examples ever!! Keep posting..love hearing about your adventures!! Love you and I mean it! :-)
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